Now any of us can have an old love. Well, let's just say that all of us reading this have an old crush. That old love, that is, the old boyfriend or girlfriend, can we meet somewhere one day? Why not, this is a smaller world than we think. We are in an even smaller country. Then, just like a tree meets a tree in Moratuwa, you can mjuihyuhyoyugyugyhyuere is such a situation, you have to look away and go.
But if there is a level or situation where both can talk, that means there is no need to be friendly, but if there is no enmity, then we are going to say some things that can be done.
01. Don't touch the gum
Now we said when we started, some lovers are separated like a deer and a deer. After the end of the relationship, there is no way to go, let alone meet again with the stories told to the world about the other person. Well, let's say that a couple who separated due to such a situation meet by chance. Then if you can't use a knife, or if you feel the urge to stab with words, the best thing to do is to walk away as if you didn't notice. At times like this, remember that when a relationship ends, there can be mistakes on both sides. Can we say that only the other person is wrong? Even if we can say that, as long as we don't hold any hatred towards anyone, we can live a stress free life. Therefore, when you meet your old love, if you feel the urge to throw it in your face, avoid it. If there is no such problem, go to point number 2.
02. If there is no problem, don't go out of the way
Okay, now if there is no problem as mentioned in the first point, we can go and meet the old boyfriend or ex-girlfriend when we see them somewhere. There is nothing to look away from. But remember, you should not use this opportunity to hurt the other person, to show your pomposity, or to show pride that I am doing so well even though he is gone. For our humanity. That's why, approach and smile and talk. Because this is a man who shared his life with us at one point in our lives, for better or for worse.
Okay, so what if he didn't talk when we went and talked? Look away? If you get carried away? If you answer angrily as if you were hit with a stick? What do you do about it? Don't make something like that personal. Don't think that you were ashamed. It is that person's mental level and personality level. Be happy there that even if the ex-boyfriend or girlfriend chooses not to talk to them, they still have the courage and good personality to reach out and talk. Be happy for being genuine. Now if he talks to us, if he doesn't talk well, talk patiently. This moment is not about him. to us
03. Look who he is with
When we meet an old boyfriend or girlfriend, we may not be alone. If mom and dad are with someone like that, we can talk respectfully and get things done. But what if he is with a new boy or a new girl? If so, don't go and talk to your old friends without paying attention to that person. Shake hands with that person very friendly and get to know them. Let's say our ex is actually with his new one. Now we have no way of knowing that unless he is introduced to us. So, if our old boyfriend or girlfriend is with someone who might think of him as his new one, there is something important to remember. Don't make a scene like "I was the one who used to be friends with this one" while jumping. Because we don't know what he said to the new one. Sometimes if the other person doesn't know anything, we can rush into the pottery shop and read like bulls and ruin a good relationship. First let's see how he introduces us. Then you can take the story accordingly. We will not go to hell for telling a little lie in such a place!
04. Remember who you are with
What was said in the above point can be the other way around, when we meet the old boy or the old girl by chance. That means we may not be alone. If this is the case with our newly met love, it is better to weigh the situation a bit. Even if it's an old love, if we are in a situation where we are told a message as soon as we talk, the best thing is to change like we have never seen before. But if there is no such problem, you can go and talk. If our new person also knows about the old love, there is no problem. You can go and say hello freely, introduce each other and talk to each other. If there is a problem with both of you going, you can talk alone and then explain the situation to your current boyfriend or girlfriend.
05. Careful about the mood of the neighborhood
This is often the case if the old person we met is not alone. That means think like this. Now we go and say hi with a smile and give the same hug and get down to the story. So it's like the radio was turned on, stories of those days when they went to Dhawalagiri with them and ate food and changed without paying, stories of going to the beach and cooking rice with them, stories of going to my mother's wedding and both of them getting drunk and growing up, old stories like that. doing When you look at it, the face of her new husband is not so good. Otherwise, our new guy's face is not good. It means that we should not bring up personal things from the past too much here. When talking about personal things from the past with the old person in this way, it is reasonable for the new person to think "what a mess". There is another side here. Now when we meet the old person, even if we try to tell old stories like that, he may not like to bring up those old stories. Therefore, it is wise not to drag up all the old stories about meeting an old boyfriend or girlfriend.
06. What did I lack?
Now when talking about those old stories, there is another matter. The two were in love before, but now they are separated. Then, if we didn't break up for a specific reason, someone might think, "What was wrong with me to break up?" But remember that the best time to find answers to that is not the moment you met by chance. This is the special thing. If the two meet by chance and have a good laugh and chat, don't go digging up the garbage from the past relationship. Do not accuse each other of anything in the past relationship. Without them, there are plenty of things to talk about nowadays. If there is nothing to talk about, talk about the depressed situation in the Bay of Bengal.
07. Will we meet again?
There is nothing wrong with meeting again if there is no bitterness between both of them. But, rather than deciding to meet a common friend, here we have to think twice. This is the reason. Anyway, this is our old boyfriend or girlfriend. Both have a history. What kind of effect can these old stories have on those who are in their current lives? After thinking about it, you have to decide whether to meet again. What we are saying here is not to think with hormones or emotions, but with intelligence. There is another thing related to it. We will say that in the next point.
08. Shall we get married again?
Now when you meet your old boyfriend or girlfriend, one thing that can happen is that the feelings of love and affection from the past come to the surface. It is a reasonable human nature. But as we said above, here you have to think only with your brain. These are the reasons for saying so. The most important thing is that they fell in love once and now they are separated. You have to think about what is the reason for that. If they had to separate once because of their incompatibility, it is impossible to think that they will be reconciled by now. Perhaps, the names were separated because they were not old enough at that time, but by now they may have been fine. Then another thing is, if there is someone in our life at the moment, then a lot of problems can arise, starting something with the old person. That's why, here too, decisions are made carefully based on emotions or hormones.
Are these things right now? We don't know that. But remember. Your ex boyfriend or girlfriend means, your life is one chapter. It may be a finished chapter. But it is difficult for us to live thinking that such a person was not in our life. All you have to do is meet like people, have a friendly chat and live your life in the present with or without friendship. The more humanely we look at something like this, the better it is for our lives.